When arranging a memorial for the first time, many families find the terminology confusing. Terms like headstones, gravemarkers, plaques, and memorials are often used interchangeably, even though they refer to different styles and purposes.
Understanding the difference between memorial headstones and gravemarkers can help families choose the option that best suits their loved one, their budget, and the cemetery’s requirements.
What Is a Memorial Headstone?
A memorial headstone typically refers to a larger, more prominent monument placed at the head of a grave. These are often upright or semi-upright and are common in traditional cemetery sections.
Key characteristics of memorial headstones include:
- Vertical or raised design
- Greater visibility from a distance
- More space for inscriptions, symbols, and artwork
- Often chosen for family or shared plots
Memorial headstones are usually made from durable materials such as granite or marble and may include a base, plinth, or additional structural elements.
What Is a Gravemarker?
A gravemarker is generally a lower-profile memorial, designed to sit flush with the ground or on a small concrete berm. Gravemarkers are commonly required in modern lawn cemeteries across New Zealand, where uniform appearance and ease of maintenance are prioritised.
Key characteristics of gravemarkers include:
- Flat or recumbent design
- Discreet and understated appearance
- Compliance with most lawn cemetery rules
- Often made from granite or bronze
Gravemarkers usually focus on clean layouts, legible inscriptions, and simple decorative elements rather than height or depth.
Key Differences at a Glance
The main distinction between the two lies in height, visibility, and permitted placement:
- Memorial headstones are more prominent and often allow for greater customisation.
- Gravemarkers are lower-profile and commonly restricted to specific cemetery sections.
The choice between the two is often influenced by cemetery regulations, personal preference, and cultural or family tradition.
Cemetery Rules and Restrictions in NZ
Most New Zealand councils regulate which memorial types are allowed in each cemetery section. For example:
- Lawn cemeteries often permit only flat gravemarkers
- Older or denominational sections may allow upright headstones
- Size, material, and placement restrictions can vary by council
Checking cemetery rules early helps avoid design changes or approval delays later in the process.
Design and Personalisation Options
Both memorial headstones and gravemarkers can be personalised, though the approach differs.
Headstones may allow for:
- Larger inscriptions
- Cultural or religious symbols
- Decorative borders or carvings
- Additional names added over time
Gravemarkers focus on:
- Layout and font selection
- Symbol placement within a compact space
- Material contrast and finish
Families unsure which option best fits their needs often benefit from understanding the difference between headstones and grave markers, especially when exploring design options for the first time.
Cost Considerations
Costs vary depending on material, size, and design complexity. Memorial headstones may involve higher installation costs due to foundations and structural requirements, while gravemarkers are often more economical and quicker to install.
A clear quote and design consultation help families make informed decisions that align with both their wishes and budget.
Choosing the Right Memorial
The right choice depends on several factors:
- Cemetery regulations
- Personal or cultural preferences
- Long-term family plans
- Budget and maintenance considerations
There is no single correct option — the best memorial is one that feels meaningful, respectful, and appropriate for the setting.
Final Thoughts
Understanding the difference between memorial headstones and gravemarkers empowers families to make confident decisions during a difficult time. With the right information and professional guidance, selecting a memorial becomes a thoughtful and reassuring process.
At Sanctuary Memorials, we help New Zealand families navigate their memorial options with clarity, care, and experience.