Choosing a memorial headstone is a meaningful decision that balances personal preference, cultural considerations, and cemetery regulations. One of the first choices families face is whether to select an upright headstone or a flat memorial headstone. Both options serve as lasting tributes, but they differ in appearance, design flexibility, and suitability depending on the burial setting.
This guide explains the key differences between upright and flat memorial headstones to help families make a confident, informed decision.
What Is an Upright Headstone?
An upright headstone, also known as a traditional monument, stands vertically at the head of the grave. These memorials are commonly seen in older cemeteries and non-lawn sections, where vertical monuments are permitted.
Key features of upright headstones include:
- Strong visual presence and visibility
- Greater space for inscriptions, symbols, and artwork
- Options for multi-part designs, including bases and family plinths
- Suitability for family plots or shared memorials
Upright headstones are often chosen by families who want a more traditional or prominent memorial that can be easily seen from a distance.
What Is a Flat Memorial Headstone?
Flat headstones, sometimes called plaques or lawn memorials, sit flush with the ground or on a low concrete berm. These are commonly required in modern lawn cemeteries across New Zealand, where uniformity and ease of maintenance are prioritised.
Key features of flat memorials include:
- Clean, understated appearance
- Compliance with most lawn cemetery regulations
- Reduced exposure to wind damage
- Lower profile, blending naturally into the landscape
Flat memorials may be made from granite, bronze, or stone plaques and often include engraved text, motifs, or simple decorative elements.
Cemetery Rules and Practical Considerations
Before choosing a memorial style, it’s essential to check the rules of the cemetery where your loved one is buried. Many councils specify whether upright monuments are allowed or if only flat plaques are permitted.
For example:
- Lawn cemeteries typically require flat or recumbent memorials
- Traditional or denominational sections may allow upright headstones
- Some cemeteries restrict height, width, materials, or finishes
Understanding these requirements early helps avoid design changes or delays later in the process.
Design Flexibility and Personalisation
Upright headstones generally offer greater flexibility in design. Their vertical surface allows room for:
- Detailed inscriptions
- Cultural or religious symbols
- Carved reliefs or etched artwork
- Additional names added over time
Flat memorials can still be personalised, but within a more compact space. Design choices often focus on layout, font style, symbol placement, and material contrast rather than depth or height.
Families who are unsure which option best reflects their wishes often benefit from professional guidance through custom headstone design consultations, where both styles can be explored in detail.
Maintenance and Longevity
Both upright and flat memorials are designed to last, but maintenance needs can differ slightly.
- Upright headstones may require periodic re-levelling or stability checks, particularly in areas with ground movement.
- Flat memorials generally experience less movement but may collect surface debris or grass overgrowth, requiring gentle cleaning.
Using durable materials such as granite helps ensure long-term resilience, regardless of the style chosen.
Cost Considerations
The overall cost of a memorial depends on size, material, complexity, and installation requirements rather than style alone. Upright headstones may involve higher installation costs due to foundations and structural requirements, while flat memorials can sometimes be more cost-effective.
A clear quote and design plan help families understand what’s included and choose an option that aligns with both their budget and expectations.
Making the Right Choice for Your Family
There’s no single “right” option when choosing between upright and flat memorial headstones. The best choice is one that:
- Complies with cemetery regulations
- Reflects your loved one’s personality and values
- Aligns with cultural or family traditions
- Feels meaningful to those who will visit and remember
Taking the time to explore your options ensures the memorial becomes a fitting and lasting tribute.
Final Thoughts
Choosing between an upright and flat memorial headstone is an important step in honouring a loved one’s life. By understanding the differences, considering cemetery rules, and seeking expert advice, families can make a decision with confidence and peace of mind.
At Sanctuary Memorials, we guide New Zealand families through every stage of the memorial process with care, clarity, and respect.